emotional labour
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Rage After Resilience: Why the Strongest People Break the Loudest
On paper, some of the clients I’ve sat across from seem unwavering. In the Rage After Resilience pattern, they oversee teams, homes, loans, ageing parents, and everyone’s emotions. They respond promptly, arrive early, smile courteously, and carry their lives like a well-balanced tray at a crowded wedding. The tray then falls one day. It can…
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The Good-Girl Contract: How peacekeeping becomes self-abandonment
There is a particular kind of woman I meet often in coaching rooms, one quietly shaped by the Good-girl contract. She is competent, warm, high-performing, and deeply tired. She speaks with care, edits herself mid-sentence, and apologises when she has done nothing wrong. She is the glue in her family, the stabiliser in her workplace,…