human behaviour
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Discipline Isn’t a Habit, It’s a Relationship with Yourself
Almost every week, I hear a variation of the same confession: “Coach, I lack discipline.” It comes wrapped in guilt, like an unspoken admission of weakness. Behind it lies an unending cycle of self-blame, the gym memberships that expire unused, the unread books, the meditation app abandoned after three days. I’ve sat across from CEOs…
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Love or Lust? The Mind’s Trickiest Illusion Explained
I once sat across a friend who had that unmistakable post-date glow—the one where pupils dilate, voice softens, and rational thought takes a leave of absence. She said, “I think I’m in love.” I smiled, because I’ve said that too, and later realised I might’ve just been in a biological sugar rush. Love and hormones—what…
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The Psychology of Boredom: Why We Lose Interest So Quickly
Over the years as a life and executive coach, I’ve seen the psychology of boredom play out repeatedly in the lives of my coachees. They often begin a new pursuit with remarkable energy—whether it’s joining a sport, starting music lessons, or committing to a fitness routine. The early sessions feel exciting, almost liberating, as novelty…
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When a Man Feels Invisible at Home: The Pain of Not Being His Family’s Hero
In a world where masculine identity has long been tethered to strength, protection, and provision, being perceived as a “hero“ by one’s family is not just a desire—it’s often a cornerstone of self-worth. For many men, particularly fathers and husbands, their emotional architecture is quietly but profoundly shaped by how they are seen at home.…
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The Devastating Dilemma: Unraveling the Reasons Behind Betraying the Ones We Love
In the complex realm of human relationships, there exists a devastating dilemma that haunts us all: betrayal. Whether it’s a partner’s infidelity, a friend’s betrayal, or a family member’s deceit, the pain of being betrayed by someone we love cuts deep. But what drives us to betray the ones we hold dear? Is it a…
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Why Do People Lie?
Lying is an unfortunately common habit. We hear stories of politicians lying to get elected, family members exaggerating about their new house, or a friend stretching the truth about an achievement – but why do people lie? What’s the psychological and social motivation behind this deceitful behaviour, and how can we approach it with greater…