relationships
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Loneliness Makes You Choose People You Wouldn’t Choose Otherwise
I have watched it happen in coaching rooms and cafés, and in the quiet glow of late-night messaging. A smart, discerning person meets someone who is simply available. Not kind. Not steady. Just there. And in a season of loneliness, “there” can look like “destiny”. This is the heart of loneliness relationship choices. Loneliness is…
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Love as compliance: Unlearning the childhood rule that still runs your relationships
Love as compliance is a particular kind of adulthood where you can read the room like a weather report. You sense a sigh from across the table, detect a pause on a phone call, and immediately begin the ancient ritual: correcting yourself before anyone asks. In coaching rooms, I meet them every week. High-functioning, high-capacity,…
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Another Self Netflix Series: A Life Coach’s Take on Zaman, Trauma, and the Olive Tree Within
I rarely watch a series and immediately want to debrief it like a coaching session. The Another Self Netflix series (Turkish title: Zeytin Ağacı, “Olive Tree”) did that to me. Three friends from Istanbul travel to Ayvalık, hoping a change of scenery will soften what life has hardened. It premiered on Netflix on 28 July…
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Gender-Equal Justice in Mauritius: What World Religion Day Made Me See
I walked into the World Religion Day gathering today with the cautious curiosity I reserve for anything that uses a phrase like “reconceptualising justice”. It can sound like a conference room trying to sound like a conscience. The event was organised by the Bahá’í community, and the theme was quietly daring: “Reconceptualising Justice for a…
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Stop Asking “How Are You?” It’s the Loneliest Question We Still Use
I have spent years in coaching rooms, watching people arrive with polished smiles and heavy hearts, and I keep noticing the same pattern when Stop Asking “How Are You?” It’s the Loneliest Question We Still Use becomes the quiet truth beneath our everyday greetings. I have also met them outside, in cafés, corridors, at weddings,…
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When “Too Much Love” Is Actually a Wound: Understanding Obsession in Relationships
Some people show overloving behaviour like they’re trying to keep a candle alive in a storm. They text a lot, check in constantly, remember tiny details you forgot you ever shared. Their care can feel like warmth, until it starts to feel like weight. And somewhere between “Aww” and “Arrey yaar”, you begin wondering if…
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The Psychology of Revenge Sex: Power, Pain, and the Lie That It Heals
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The Game of Reactions: It’s Your Reactions That Define Your Day
I have coached people who earn seven figures and people who are rebuilding their lives from scratch. Strangely, the same small villain shows up in both stories: the game of reactions, where an unexamined reaction quietly takes the driver’s seat and starts steering the day. Not the event. Not the traffic. Not the colleague’s tone.…
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You’re Not Afraid of Death. You’re Afraid of Losing What You Think Is Yours
I often hear people say, “I’m scared of death.” It sounds honest, even brave. But in coaching rooms and quiet conversations, a different confession emerges. What they fear is not the last breath. What they fear is the stripping away—the fear of loss: of identity, connection, control, meaning, and the life they recognize as their…
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Toxic Positivity: The Hidden Mental Health Crisis in India
In almost every Indian family, there is at least one unofficial happiness manager. The person who says “Think positive”, “It could be worse”, or “At least be grateful” before you have finished sharing what hurts. I meet versions of this person every week in my work as a life coach in India. This culture of…